Programs for collaborative PRACTICE professionals
The View From Here - Reflections, Lessons, and Songs(!) from My Excellent Collaborative Divorce Adventure
Tapping her own collaborative divorce experience, Barbara offers lessons, stories, humor, and songs around four themes:
Metaphor - What is the story we are telling and how can we choose one that supports healing for families?
Detoxification - What needs to be released? What "hairballs" do we need to cough up and how can we ease the pain in the meantime?
Community - Who can support us? What can professional and personal allies offer to support families?
Transformation - Who are we becoming? How can families leverage the pain and learning from collaborative divorce for their own growth?
During our recent Collaborative Law Course, co-sponsored by the State Bar of Texas and The Collaborative Law Institute of Texas, Barbara McAfee offered the view from the client side of the table as she discussed the collaborative divorce experience she had shared with her “wasband”. We expected that the presentation would be powerful and moving, as client programs often are, and we were not disappointed. Barbara shared the details of her experience with the lawyers, mental health and financial professionals in the audience with descriptions that left many of us in tears. What we didn’t expect was the truly awe-inspiring way that she shared her message. Barbara is an amazing vocalist, and she captured her collaborative experience in song in a way that was uplifting and motivating to those of us in the trenches. What an amazing gift: to be able to genuinely and authentically share the most painful part of her life, in story and song, with those of us dedicated to helping families, leaving us ever more hopeful about the value and meaning of the work that we do. Her ability to entertain at the same time, as well as get a group of professionals to join her in song is only further testimony to her story and her gift. Thank you Barbara!
Honey A. Sheff, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist
Collaborative Neutral Mental Health Professional
Carla Calabrese, J.D., Partner
So…..What About Your Voice?
A Practical and Transformational Approach
to a Much Overlooked Tool
Collaborative Law practitioners spend a good part of every day in conversation – with clients , colleagues, and community members. As important as our voices are, few of us know how to use them to their full potential. Many of us feel self-conscious about how we sound, but don’t know how to make authentic, lasting change in our voices.
Learning to consciously tap the full range of expression available to you makes it much more likely that your message will reach the minds and hearts of your listeners – in spite of the background noise of these chaotic and challenging times. Working with your own full voice makes you a more skilful listener as well.
In this highly interactive and practical training, we will:
• Assess our vocal strengths, habits, assumptions, and challenges
• Increase vocal awareness, flexibility, and expression using the Five Elements Framework
• Identify ways to use voice to project authority, express passion, extend compassion, and convey vision in everyday conversations
• Discover how to listen to what the voices of others are saying about them
• Gather a list of practices to continue individual vocal development
Wow, what can I say about your presentation? There was not a dry eye in the room; you managed to touch every single soul there; you simultaneously provided comfort and inspiration; it was a magical way to conclude our weekend; you are brilliant and gifted; you gave to our community so much more than I had dared to even hope for.
Talia L. Katz, JD
Chief Executive Officer
International Academy of Collaborative Professionals